You Didn’t Lose Them — You Outgrew the Spell

You didn’t lose them.
You woke up.

That ache you felt? It wasn’t loss. It was withdrawal.
Not from love — but from illusion.

What you thought was connection was control.
What you called chemistry was your nervous system repeating its own abandonment loop.
And what felt like love…
was just the comfort of a cage.

You didn’t lose them.
You outgrew the spell.

What You Thought Was Love Was Often Programming

They didn’t mean to cast it.
And you didn’t mean to fall for it.

But they mirrored your wounds so perfectly,
you called it home.

We’ve been taught to confuse intensity with intimacy.
To believe love means sacrifice.
That proving your worth will earn you peace.

It won’t.

Most people weren’t in love —
they were in patterns.
You didn’t lose love.
You lost a script you were never meant to finish.

The Spell Was Familiarity, Not Fulfillment

You stayed because it was familiar.
Not because it was good.

The spell wasn’t magic — it was memory.
Something in them triggered a wound in you.
And you mistook the pain for purpose.

You weren’t choosing them.
Your trauma was.

But here’s the truth:
You don’t need to hate someone to leave.
You don’t need a villain to walk away.

You just need clarity.
And once you see it —
you never unsee it.

Outgrowing Someone Isn’t Cold — It’s Clarity

You didn’t get colder.
You got collected.

You stopped explaining.
Stopped chasing.
Stopped folding your fire just to keep their attention.

The version of you that stayed wasn’t weak — it was loyal.
But the version of you that left?
That’s the one who leads.

Not because you stopped caring.
But because you started remembering.

When the Spell Breaks, Your Energy Returns

Ever notice how you feel lighter when they’re gone?

Not because they were evil —
but because the illusion was heavy.

You weren’t losing your mind.
You were regaining your self-worth.

Suddenly you’re more creative.
More focused.
More you.

And they feel it.
That silence they hear from you?
It’s the leash they used to hold —
snapped.

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You didn’t lose anything.
You just stopped chasing what couldn’t hold your fire.
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